I was on a small boat cruise during the winter in the galapagos islands. We were getting ready to do a bit of snorkling. I scuba dived for a years and worked as a diver for a field season. Back in those days, I only had a wet suit. A bit tight, but I didn’t replace it as I grew somewhat.
Flash forward a few decades on the galapagos tour and the outfitters gave me an extra large wetsuit. And I’m trying to squeeze 11 pounds of sausage into a 10 pound casing. This was one of the suits that zipped up in the back. It had one of those long langards so that you do the zipping up by yourself.
I was always careful not to get hair caught in my front zipper wetsuit. I had to stop zipping up the rear zippered wet suit owing to the sudden sharp pain. It never occurred to me that I might now have the same amount of hair on my back that I had on my chest.
Just one of those aging things I know, but when the hell did that happen?
I have had a number of realizations in the past few months. I mentally feel in the same place but the world has evolved around me.
I purchased some new wool tailored pants. They looked great. I took them on a business trip and felt they crept up a bit too far on my legs when I sat down. I took them back to get another inch or so. trying to get that appropriate break on pants when they touched the shoe.
The clerk suggested that people are wearing their pants shorter now. Perhaps meeting at the ankle or so. I always thought that younger people bought them at the right length, but as they grew, they didn’t have the money to replace them.
The same concept applies to the gym I just joined. My sweat sock go up to about mid calf or so. After the pant incident, I finally noticed that everyone, and I mean everyone, only had socks ending right above the line of the running shoe.
When did the rules regarding style suddenly, or slowly, change?
“Don’t tell me the moon is shining; show me the glint of light on broken glass.”
I came across this quote by Chekhov illuminating the need not to tell your readers but to show them.
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Winter brings the onset of seasonal affective disorder. Where does one go for a sunny day in Canada? Calgary takes the spot as a major centre with the most sunny days. Considering the oil market, they appear to need it. Vancouver with 154 rain days ranks just behind Prince Rupert as the cloudiest part of Canada. But at least when you live in Vancouver, at least you are in Vancouver.
Those of us in other parts of the country must turn to the Amazon. Not the river, the shopping platform. Here you can purchase your own light therapy box. Light therapy impacts brain chemicals linked to mood and sleep and eases SAD symptoms.
We have the Northern Light Technologies 10,000 lux desk light. Minimal UV radiation since you don’t want to fix one problem and cause an even greater melanoma problem.
Ignore the pictures showing people sitting in a chair enjoying a coffee. Read the brochure, but generally the light box should be within 18 inches of your face for maximum effectiveness. The exact distance that your mother always warned you about when you watched TV.
Perhaps 15 minutes a day in the morning ought to do it. Just keep a consistent schedule and do all those other things that your mother told you to do. Get outside and play.
Interesting TED talk by Adam Galinsky. Sometimes you don’t speak up when you should, and speak up when you shouldn’t. This force to speak up arises from moral conviction.
He suggests that the range of times that you can appropriately speak up can depend upon the amount of power you have in a particular situation.
You can expand the range of times you should speak up by increasing the amount of power you have.
This power can be increased by
- advocating on behalf of others
- possessing some particular expertise
- obtaining social support and allies
Once you have at least one of these, then speak with conviction and passion.
As an irrelevant aside, this sort of reminded me of the precautionary poem by Yeats, The Second Coming:
“The best lack all conviction, while the worst
Are full of passionate intensity”
So, Be Best, not worst.
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Instead of those micro-resolutions, you know, lose those 10 pounds, drink less of that particular beverage, phoning your mother more, what about a BHAR? This is a resolution that might take you years to accomplish. Being the best at something. Writing that book. Learning an instrument.
You can still break it down to smaller parts, but visualize something that would shift the entire direction of your life.
But phone your mother anyway.
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Assuming this is someone that you want to give a gift to, how can you decide a gift strategy?
1. Give them exactly what they wanted. Perhaps out of your price point, but when money is no object.
2. Give them close to what they wanted. But this time within your price point.
3. Give them what they think they need.
4. Give them what they actually need. This is fraught with peril since you may be pointing out foibles.
5. Give them something completely random. This can be cute, unless its a live animal which you should completely reconsider.
6. Give them something that aligns with their thematic lifestyle. Perhaps running gear or cooking supplies.
7. Give them something to push them into a thematic lifestyle they should adopt. I keep getting cookbooks.
8 Give to some charity that can lift people out of poverty. Providing a well for a village goes a long way to reduce disease.
And whatever you do, enjoy the time together since its really just the thought. Right?
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Giving your spouse an exercise bike for Christmas ranks up there with giving a vacuum cleaner. One time I did give my wife a gas-powered chipper/shredder for her birthday. But she is an avid gardener, and she specifically requested it. And she specifically requested that I operate it. It’s not Fargo-sized, so I wasn’t concerned there.
So like any customer centered marketing plan, do you go with the gift they asked for, the gift you think they want, or the gift that you want to give them?
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I found it interesting that the word zealous automatically made me think of the word jealous. One is a very positive action, while the other is very negative emotion.
You could have someone that was zealously jealous. Taking extreme actions to express their emotionally jealousy.
But I am not sure you could have someone that was jealously zealous. This seems that someone is still showing zealous actions but expressing in a jealous way.
I would suggest avoiding both types of person as being somewhat unbalanced.
I was just reading a posting from Ramblings from Retirement which I just re-posted below. So many things struck home. His comment about how tea came in one flavour, tea flavour. My favorite was some of the difficulties in connecting his new type of TV to his system.
My favorite tea is now a white tea called Buddha’s blend. A series of different flavours combined with things that were never considered tea in the past.
I realized that life now comes with a lot more in the way of instructions than it ever did before. That level of complexity appears to be necessary in order to achieve this retiring life of simplicity we are now aiming for. Thoreau said ‘simplify, simplify, but I don’t think we can get there from here anymore.
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